Well it’s certainly been a long spell away from this blog… Although there have definitely been some intriguing encounters in that time!! 😉 It’s also interesting for me to notice how my inner confidence has grown since I wrote this post – which has been hiding in my drafts for several years. The encounter itself was back in 2014, but it was such a wonderful and memorable one for me that I thought I really should  finally give it some light! It’s a bit long, but your choice if you want to read it.

So… my first encounter with Aff5…

What a friend and lover to have in Leo. He was looking out for potential other lovers for me and had spied a potential guy for me on a swinging site. He told me “Single male, great body… and fairly local to you Eve and sounds good”. A couple of weeks later out of the blue the same guy contacted Leo about teaming up with him and his wife. Leo asked me my thoughts on him, then seized the opportunity and phoned him back. So instead of discussing the potential for him and his wife to team up with this guy, Leo gave Aff5-to-be a synopsis of me and also quizzed him a bit on my behalf.

Leo then emailed me back …

“From his profile he says he’s 46… so you sound pretty compatible… I get the impression he’s confident and quite assured – so my instinct is that you’re in safe hands… or at least will be!.. Look he sounds really nice Eve and is up for meeting with you too, so over to you and here’s his email address… Oh and I said you might email him tonight xx”

Omg… me make a move I thought?? That was quick. For me it’s pretty much always been a male making a move on me, so it was something I was unaccustomed to. “Come on Eve” I told myself… be bold… So I bit the bullet and did. My email to Aff5-to-be started… “Hello… It’s a bit bizarre but where do I start? I’ve got a blank email canvas… to compose… Hmm what with, what threads?” I described that I normally found lovers a bit by chance. I then described that I referred to my lovers as “Affs”. I tell him I adore sex “The touches, the sparks igniting within, and both getting lost in touch, sounds and just wonderful natural fulfilling carnal connected pleasure… Mmmmm “ and I ask him what he’s looking for… I then pressed send. It was a Thursday, and I tell Leo that evening that I’d emailed Aff5-to-be back.

On Friday morning Leo then sent me some snapshots of some of 5-to-be’s validations on the swinging site. OMG… it was too late, I’d emailed this guy…

Me to Leo:

O M G …. I’m not sure I would’ve sent him an email if I’d read these earlier. They’re lovely all the comments don’t get me wrong… and I sense he’s safe to be with… But … Holy crap… I can’t express… I don’t fit in, I’m out of my league feeling. Oh well pull yourself together woman… You’ve done it, you’ve sent him an email. He may naturally decide we don’t match or want to meet up. Thanks for sending through, I guess seriously though, knowing more is a good thing. Strange reaction? It’s one thing to observe from a distance, quite another to meddle/play in this stuff…

Leo to me:

Well… it’s all part of the therapeutic nature of this… that you come to acknowledge that you are a very sexy woman.. so, it’s good that you had already sent the email and good that you get to explore what you’re telling yourself about others finding you attractive… The people on this site love sex and appear to appreciate 5-to-be’s ability to give them a pleasurable time… you’re next 😉

Certainly reading his validations made me feel safe to be with him… but still out of “his league”. Also popping into my inbox on Friday morning was a reply from Aff5-to-be. I loved his responses to my email, he obviously had a good sense of humour as well as being thoughtful and descriptive, and yes he thought it was a bit bizarre scenario too with Leo putting us in touch since Leo hadn’t met him in person… (Whereas Leo had known Aff4 in person for several years)

A few snippets from Aff5-to-be reponses:-

Out of interest what are “affs”?  affectionates? armed forces financial services? Academy of future sciences?  Amiga fast file system?  google not helping me here.

I like exploration, boundaries and edges. I am very kinesthetic, I communicate well with touch, I am not so good at knowing what someone looks like, I am very good at knowing what they feel like, how they smell and taste.

One of my favorites is to be with a woman who enjoys many men at once, and yet chooses me to be with and share with, that is so sexy.

Plus he described far out boundaries that I didn’t even know about… The “would I like to swing or go to parties with him?” Oh my… I’d only just reached low double figures in sexual partners that I’d had in my whole life. That email from him was Friday, and after a couple more exchanges we agree to meet up on the Monday. I was working away from home and we decided to meet part way for a drink at an inn…

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