It’s our pleasure! – by Alan

I am Alan, happily married to Sam for 20 years – and known each other for about three years before that. We have always both been very sensual and well into physical sex for the fun.  I fondly remember our very first night together when ‘everything’ happened.  It always causes ‘stirrings’ but that’s for another time!

 About four or five years into our marriage we were always talking about physical feelings, what turned us on, what we’d like to do.  One night we happened to be watching TV late at night, what was on but Hedonism II about the famous (infamous?) swingers resort in Jamaica.  It fascinated both of us and the following week we were there for a second viewing.

 Bits of it – and some of the people  – were not our ‘scene’ at all but as we discussed it, we opened up more about how we each felt on many sexual matters.  Sam wasn’t quite sure how she’d feel about sharing me with someone else though she herself loved the thought of being fucked by a couple of guys – or more!

 A swinging world

 From then on, I was on the internet investigating, and among other things came, across Swingers Europe, a couples dating site (the site was great then, but has since it merged and became SDC has lost its dynamism).  I also discovered the newly-emerging world of swinging resorts including a rather exclusive one in Coast Rica which we later visited – it is now sadly defunct.

 This all totally opened the whole idea of the swinging scene to us, and led us together and individually to appraise and develop our desires, wants and lusts – an old fashioned concept, but none the less useful for that.

 One thing we discovered is that we were both very liberal in our attitude to sex – yes, as I’ve already indicated she wasn’t at first sure of her attitude to me and another woman together and to some extent still isn’t, but overall she is as adventurous as I am.

 

Heteroflexibility

 One thing we did discover is that we both have a liberal attitude to same sex fun.  It came about when we were trading thoughts on types of sex – even kinks perhaps – when she suggested that like all men, I no doubt would love to see her with another woman!

 I admitted I would, whereupon she told me she’d love to play with a woman’s breasts – and then added that she would love to watch me playing with another man!  What is sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander, she observed!

 We discussed that one much further over subsequent months (and years in fact) and realised we were both open on the issue – it wasn’t long before we came up with the term ‘heteroflexible’.

 Essentially we have established that we are both primarily attracted to the opposite sex, but that physical (certainly not emotional) activity with the same sex didn’t put us off and was actually something we’d both want to try.

 She had not had any physical sexual activity with a woman up to that point, though she had been approached – sadly, as she now admits, she declined!  As for me, I had had some mid-teenage wanking experience with boys and the thought still excited me.  I’d almost had an experience with some gay guys at college but that never came off.  I often wondered where things might have gone if it had….

 First steps 

So we began to look around at possibilities.  It took us a lot of time but eventually we plucked up the courage to put fantasy into practice.  We had made approaches – and been approached – by couples but nothing came off until 2002.

 It was then I came across Martijn, a Dutch guy living in London.  He was about 30, described himself as bi and after some internet chats with me, we decided fro all three of us to meet him for a drink to see how we got on.  When we met, he seemed pleasant enough, so we decided to meet for fun that weekend. 

It’s worth a story on its own so you’ll have to wait for the gory details!  Suffice it to say, we were all VERY nervous when it came to it, but got through that and had a great time.  Sam got to see me playing with a guy and loved it.  (She saw me on later occasions but eventually reached the point ‘been there, seen that’, often taking a break while he and I have our ‘fun’.  It somewhat rules out meets with guys who will ‘do’ bi if there is a woman present.  Probably just as well because they are not committed, I reckon.)

 Coupling 

Anyway, after that eventually we began to meet others including two meets with another couple, which went well: and she experienced her first woman-on-woman activity.

 Then we came across Steve, and within a few weeks we were in bed with him – and since then have met him many times.  With him it is not just about sex though that of course predominates.  As he says, often it is just fun eating, talking and socialising together, and if sex didn’t come into it one time, so what?  (Not that we have ever failed to have plenty of physical fun as well!) 

We also had a foursome with him and a friend of his, Cassie.  (We intended to meet her again as a foursome but it never happened, sadly).  And then Sam had a 1-2-1 with Steve.  Not sure who’s idea it was… probably I suggested it in chat with Steve and he was up for it, if we both were.  So it was that she and he met a few times in London for illicit nights.  Well, not exactly illicit as I knew all about them.  I gather – I was told – they had a lot of fun. 

Then she suggested he and I should meet alone – ‘you’ll be less inhibited’ – we both laughed at that.  She also suggested that it would suit my bdsm tendencies which it is true I have, but so does she also, perhaps to a lesser degree. 

One to one 

So it went on from there.  One day she suggested she’d like to sleep with an old lover from before my time – they met every few months for dinner anyway – and after she suggested it, he was champing at the bit.  She says he’s a pretty useless lover but she ‘managed’ to sleep with him a few times a year over the next six or seven years! 

I also fixed her up with a couple of guys for overnights, and later on, she began travelling.  This led to a couple of affairs with Canadian guys, one of which ended up being purely platonic – sex of the mind perhaps, though originally she had intended to consummate it.  The other was less satisfactory.   It started well enough but it eventually petered away, as he got less and less interested in the sex – and it appears, he turned into a bit of a grouch.

 Paying for the privilege 

My ‘heteroflexible’ activities developed and I have had a number of meetings with guys, mostly one-off.  Interestingly this activity led on to another surprising diversion.

 Sam and I had discussed sex for money – I had never done it and unlikely I ever will (never say never, of course).  She said she would take money in the right circumstances, why not?

 Then I chatted to Mitch, who was bi, and who I met 1-2-1.  One day he told me that he had paid a couple for sex and had a great time.  How much?  £300 he told me.  Sam would do it for £250 and a bottle of champagne, I said.

 He became very keen, and when I put it to her, she said why not?  Two weeks later it happened.   You can read the story here when I post it… 

 I told another guy – Seb – about it and he was also enthusiastic!  We had plans anyway to meet as a threesome, with him booking a hotel, his usual modus operandi for his fun.  But he suggested staying with us and paying his hotel costs to her instead.   So she came to have her second session for money.  Again, the full story for another time.  She was quite interested in taking paid-for sex even further but it never quite developed.

 Moving on

 The last few years have seen a definite slowing down of our extra-curricular  fun.  She changed jobs and her travel to London and abroad stopped.  We still have the occasional meet with Steve – once a year now instead of five to six times overall.

 Our own sex drives have changed a bit – not downwards, just different.   We both have massive climaxes – mostly generated by manual pleasuring of each other, or the judicious use of vibrators (she gets huge enjoyment from a mains version: if you sneer at such things think again, or come and watch her exploding – it’s a real wonder of the world!)

 And our personal family lives changed for a variety of good reasons. 

 I think it is likely we will resume some activity.  Only recently, Sam got quite excited about a fantasy idea I relayed to her, and is one I will be pursuing…

 I realise I haven’t given you much detail about our desires, fetishes and kinks – this has been rather about how we got into open sex. Those other things will have to wait for another occasion – if anyone is interested, that is!

 Suffice it to say, I have developed to a position where I have no jealousy – I enjoy her having sex with others.  More than that – it is a big turn-on for me, and have encouraged it as much as I can.

 Over the years, she has been slightly ‘bothered’ that things are slightly uneven, in that she might feel jealous of me with another woman (on my own that is; in a group, it wouldn’t bother her).  More recently, she has said it wouldn’t bother her so much and it would ‘only be fair’. 

 But to reassure her, I have indicated that I wouldn’t go 121 with a woman, in case it gave her grief, and anyway, her tolerance of my ‘bi’ inclinations and activities provide a balance.  And she does still urge me to find male physical partners (mind you, she doesn’t want to know what we get up to but is happy for me to get pleasure that way!)

 Shortly I aim to post the details of some of the meetings that I have referred to above… watch this space.

Clubbing and Quantum Physics

Back in my home-town on the Continent, and on the evening of the first full day I find myself without any plans. Meetings with family and friends are scheduled for later during my one week’s visit, so I better take the opportunity for a naughty night out. Actually, I am quite tired, had a busy and exhausting few days before my departure, and I am not sure whether I should go. Also, there was a slight chance to meet up with one of my school-friends (his plans for the evening didn’t quite work out in the end, but he doesn’t let me know until fairly late in the afternoon.) Now I need to come up with a fib for my mum, where and with whom I’ll be spending the evening. (the school-friend gives me a good excuse to go out, though).

So, as early evening approaches, I take a shower, get myself ready. Hair done up, make-up carefully applied (without any expectation for it to last throughout the night – well, there’s a hope), perfume of course, putting on a black and nude lacy slip, a black thong (perhaps not appropriate for a cold winter evening), opaque patterned tights (at least for the duration of my journey to the club), a tight-fitting black and brown knitted dress, black heels. My mum approves of my outfit (at least of what she can see). I add on a bit of sparkly jewellery – and stealthily hide a pair of seamed fishnet hold-ups in my handbag which I intend to wear at the club. After all, I need to look elegant and respectable when I leave the house, don’t want to raise my mum’s suspicions (although – well, I don’t need to point out a mother’s sixth sense when children are up to no good! At least I can keep her in the dark about my true motives for the evening out – nevertheless, I can see she is puzzled that I am going out “to meet my friend” rather late; by now it is almost 8:30 p.m.) and contrary to my usual habit, I am rather vague about where we will meet. A quick kiss and a “don’t worry mum, I will come home very late” (meaning early morning – but that is not something unheard of when meeting with my old friends from school).

Going to the club by public transport I always find quite amusing (although walking about in high heels is less funny if one isn’t used to it). I sit on the bus, watching people around me – if only you knew! Or perhaps better not ….

Fortunately I don’t have to change often, but walking the last bit in the dark, almost empty streets in an area of town where a number of seedy clubs and red-light bars are located (and not to forget my heels!) is not entirely comfortable. It is a safe city, it is my home, and I look respectable – nothing at all gives away my final destination, but still I walk along on high alert about my surroundings. Finally, the entrance of the club, an energetic tap on the door-bell, and off into the foyer – out of sight from the street. It takes a couple of minutes before the door is opened for me. A faint smile of recognition from the manager, who enters my name into his book and assigns me a locker in the changing room.

Since it is a Friday I expect to see at least a few familiar faces of the usual Friday regulars, and straight away I bump into a couple dancing close to the entrance. Hugs and kisses – “Lovely to see you! It’s been a while” (which is true; I haven’t been in the club on a Friday for about a year, I think). A quick glance into the bar-area – hmmmmm, for a Friday it seems rather quiet although a few people sit and stand around the bar, and by club standards it is still early, about 9:30 pm.

In the changing room I quickly slip out of my coat and more importantly, out of my dress. Tights are exchanged for fishnets. Another couple arrived just after me, I ask the girl whether the seams of my stockings were sitting straight. After a brief inspection of my legs and with a short tug she corrects a minor misalignment, followed by her approving comment “What a sweet kitten you are!” and a wink. “Is she one of the bi or bi-curios women?” I wonder. Closing my locker, I take a deep breath, clasp my cigarettes and lighter (all I will need for the evening), and sashay out to the bar.

The manager/bar-keeper takes my key (to be placed on a board, which serves as a means to make sure that everyone has left at the end of the night, but also very convenient because one doesn’t need to look after it), takes my order for a drink. Across the bar a woman waves at me – my namesake is here too! She was the first person to welcome and introduce me to some other regulars at my first ever visit on my own. I have had lovely chats with her since and she can be good fun (if she doesn’t get too drunk). On the one hand it is nice to see familiar faces, on the other, it is so easy to get engaged in conversations, and if so, especially in chatting with the ladies, it can be quite tricky to make contact with the guys, who can be reluctant (or too shy) to approach, not least because they can get the wrong ideas about one’s interest (my namesake is known to swing to both sides; my interests are known to those who have met me before – but not that many are present, at least not yet).

I walk over to her; again hugs and kisses, “Good to see you” again, followed by an exchange about the more important news in our lives. She introduces me to another, male, regular. I don’t catch his name, it is quite noisy– never mind, the three of us chatter away happily. The DJ decided to go for the 70s, songs we all know and we sing along and reminisce about the days of our youth. “He whose name I didn’t catch” looks okay, a bit taller than me, about my own age, bald, faint traces of acne-scars which add interest to his face, lovely eyes, very pleasant in conversation. The walking boots and thick socks he wears, though, are a bit at odds with his t-shirt and shorts, and a rather unusual type of foot-wear at the club.

At some point the woman behind whom I was standing, swivels around on her bar stool. “Hey, cool to see you again! It’s been ages!” Indeed, it had been – about a year. I hadn’t recognised her because she has put on at least 20 kg, which especially for her small frame, is enormous. Another set of hugs and kisses and I try to hide my shock. Later I learn from my namesake about an illness which had caused that weight gain.

In between bits of conversation I let my eyes wander. Is it my imagination or have the ladies’ outfits become more daring and skimpy? Has the fashion changed? Lots of fishnet and lace, more provocative than before, some baring virtually all, very little of leather or latex, etc. Some outfits look cheap – in every sense – rather than erotic. In my lacy slip I look rather demure in comparison (well, after all I could not have any daring outfits of that kind lying around at my mum’s or at home).

Also, there are hardly any men around who catch my eyes. There’s one a short distance further along the bar, but he is quite attached to a woman whom he strokes rather stealthily – no point to flirt, which can be a bit tricky if they are a couple (as a single woman one has to be a bit careful with attached men, jealousies are not unknown, even at the club). Time passes, midnight approaches. I start thinking that Fridays really are not the best days, with such a fairly close-knit community of regulars. Never mind, at least it’s a fun, even if not naughty, night out.

At some point the “girl who gained weight” offers me her seat – she is off to play. Further chatting with “he whose name I didn’t catch”, and suddenly some eye-contact with “the one further down the bar”. He approaches my namesake playfully, (she knows virtually everyone around), tickling her back – which she says she doesn’t enjoy because right at that moment she suffers from a hot-flush and feels sticky. He comes over to me, runs his hands down my back – I, in contrast, like that a lot, make it known to him. Some more playful tickling (his approach to my namesake was just an excuse to get closer to me, I am sure!). Some more playful tickling – then he sits next to his partner again, stroking and caressing her ever so slightly, but she seems more interested in chatting and dancing. Yep, perhaps I do have a chance after all! Some more exchange of glances …

Then, suddenly, “he whose name I didn’t catch” bends towards me and plants a firm kiss on my lips. Nice! I lean back against him, his hands wandering over my shoulders, gripping the nape of my neck, grasping a handful of my hair. Oh, I like that a lot! Shivers of pleasure are now running down my spine. I open my mouth, our tongues entwine in a kiss lasting for what seems ages (talk about clichés!) His other hand finds its way to my breasts, sliding under my slip, tweaking my nipples. I gasp with pleasure against his mouth, my head tilted back, eyes closed. Now I feel his hand wandering up my legs, pushing my slip up a bit, teasing my through my thong. I tense up – we are at the bar, in public view! He pushes my thong aside, rubs my clit, inserts a finger – finally I give in to waves of pleasure, relax and I climax within minutes, very much to the approval of the people in our immediate surroundings (nobody else notices – they are too busy themselves). When I open my eyes again, another one of my acquaintances had arrived. Frank, an older man around 70, who regularly spends his Fridays at the club, cheekily telling his wife that he is out playing cards with his mates. He comes out with the naughtiest verses one can imagine, makes people laugh, likes to watch people play and plays if the situation arises. On a previous occasion he has taken good care of me in a group situation, making sure that everybody behaved properly (i.e. used condoms). Anyway, another round of hugs and kisses and “I haven’t seen you in ages”.

“He whose name I didn’t catch” and I decide to find some more private space in the play area. All the lockable rooms are occupied except for the one with the gynaecological chair (the club caters for all kinds of tastes). He isn’t keen on public play (not to speak of further participants) so – well, the gyn. chair it is. He locks the door, we stand faced to face, more kisses. He is keen to take his shorts off and releases a nicely sized hard cock for me to play with. I wrap my hand around it, my other hand on his balls, rubbing and teasing him. He nudges me to position myself on the chair, legs firmly planted on the restraints. Ah, my thong needs to come off too! I lift my buttocks, he pulls it down my legs, throws into the corner where I left my shoes. His commands come in English rather than our native language. “I want to fuck you, baby!” My legs up and spread widely, I move my buttocks further down the chair, ready for him to enter (not before he has put on a condom, of course!) First he teases my clit with his hard cock – delicious waves of pleasure make me want more and more … and more until I orgasm. My loud moans must be audible outside and someone rattles the door-handle, clearly in the hope to participate in the fun. Not this time, whoever you are!

I am very wet now and “he whose name I didn’t catch” enters me with a rock-hard cock. A few slow and hard thrusts until I take him in entirely and deeply. I slide down the chair even further, almost (but not quite) worried that I might tumble off. I firmly grasp the foothold, which gives me leverage to meet his thrusts. Hard and fast now. “Turn around, baby! I want to fuck you from behind!” Slightly out of breath I climb down, plant my feet on the ground, bend forward, bunching the paper covers of the seat in my hands. A few more thrusts and I come again – or am I still on the same wave as before? By now I am on a high of pleasure, no longer able to distinguish between high waves and climax. (In the meantime more rattling on the door. Poor sods – but this time I am having plenty of fun with one partner). Slowly I get exhausted, and so is “he whose name I didn’t catch”, but he just can’t climax. He is confused now. “Is it me? Anything I should do differently?” “Just wank me”. I do my best, hard grip, gentle grip, fast, slow. Finally I get down on my knees, sucking his hard cock, licking his balls, teasing his anus with a finger. All to no avail. After a while I suggest to take a break – perhaps he is over-stimulated, just in need of a rest. He admits that he had had a very long day and felt somewhat tired, but was a bit confused, too. So, shower-time it is, and time for another drink.

We decide to sit in a quiet corner, away from the crowd, and able to have a private conversation. I learn a bit about his background, his job, his private life with his Far Eastern wife, his frustration with his job (from which his club-visits are an escape), and his keen interest in mathematics and physics, two subjects he had studied at university but dropped out before finishing, and his regrets about this. Now, while these latter subjects aren’t exactly my field of expertise, I can hold this conversation once we arrive at the philosophy of mathematics and quantum physics, the universe, matter and energy and how such thoughts make my head spin (and his, too). Another hour passes quickly with chatter until we look at each other, giggling “How crazy is that? Sitting in a swingers’ club at 3 am, discussing quantum physics! Surely we could do better things with the remaining hour before the club closes. We definitely need to remedy this situation.” Ready for round two!

Although by now quite a few people have left, all the lockable rooms are occupied (still or again?) I suggest one reasonably private area, high up under the ceiling, called the “bird’s nest” (of which I have fond memories of my first ever “group-worship” – not to use the cruder term gang-bang). Before climbing up I carefully stretch the rope a across the entrance – a clear signal for the wish for privacy.

This time, lots of kisses and manual stimulation quickly bring us to full arousal. In our naughty talk we stick to our native language, and in contrast to round one, this one is of less urgency, far gentler (despite a few slaps on my backside) and more intimate. At some point, someone quite naughtily approaches upstairs, ignoring the closing rope, but “he whose name I didn’t catch” waves him away. However, now the rope isn’t in its place any longer, and my loud moans and gasps and our dirty talk attract attention. Fortunately, however, the next visitor is Frank, who although watching us at the same time blocks access for everyone else. He clearly understands the rules and being watched doesn’t bother us. And anyway, we are lost in our senses. Kneeling between my widely spread legs, my partner takes a little while to put on a condom. I am on edge, don’t want to interrupt, so I take initiative and start to rub my clit. “Show me, baby. Show me how you do it yourself.” I come noisily, ready for his hard cock to drive me to even greater pleasure. After some gentle missionary, we try from behind (I am careful not to put too much strain on my elbows to avoid carpet-burns), and sideways. Tiredness gets hold of my partner again at some point, but in the end I succeed in bringing him release with hands and mouth – all the while being silently watched by Frank. We collapse breathlessly, recovering with gentle strokes and cuddles.

It would be nice to rest for a little longer, but by now only 20 minutes are left to closing time at 4 a.m., so another quick shower, afterwards I don’t bother to put on my fishnets again. I really am in need of a glass of water at the bar. A few last stragglers are still left, quite drunk, including the manager who clearly has no intention of closing – something I have never observed before and quite in contrast to his usual correct manner. I have a last cigarette for the evening, coming down from the high of a little while earlier. When “he whose name I didn’t catch” finally sees me fully dressed in the changing room, his reaction is “Wow! Understated elegance! That’s what I like a lady to be like”. With a wink I reply “nothing giving away the slut I can be.” A final tight hug, a good bye kiss and off I walk to my taxi (and glad to take off my heels soon).

24 hours later:
Note to self: think twice about using the gyn. chair! While I escaped carpet burns on my elbows, a couple of bruises on each of my buttocks from the metal bits on the chair are a slightly painful, even if not entirely unpleasant, reminder of some rather vigorous exercise.